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Should Jacks practice random acts of fabulousness on Jills they don't know?
Asked by: The Gaytriarch  |   Topic: J+J Out and About

Sometimes even a Gaytriarch needs some advice. There are times when I see gals I don't know who look fabulous and I really want to tell them how right they got it. But I'm concerned that they'll think I'm some sort of creepy stalker type or be upset when they learn I'm not putting them on a reality show. So the question is, should Jacks practice random acts of fabulousness by letting Jills they don't know how good they look?
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Response by: DorisDay    Jun 21, 11:49:27 am      ononononon Login to vote!

Absolutely!

Every gal likes to be told how gorgeous they look. I'd even take and admiring wink these days or a "well, look at you, luv! you look like a dream." My thoughts are that random acts of kindess in all shapes and sizes by everyone would help the day to day in this world be just a little bit brighter. My brother used to pay the toll for the person behind him and I've been known to pay for the order of the person behind me in the Starbucks drive-thru (yes, I still like Starbucks). Maybe the occassional "your shoes are mah-velous" would be just the thing to help add sparkle to someones day.  

Response by: Dr. Jen    Aug 06, 08:31:39 am      offoffoffoffoff Login to vote!

If a Random Jack ever tells me I look fabulous, totally unprovoked, my DAY is MADE!

Even if it is provoked "Hey everyone, tell me how good I look!" I still feel super special. 

I mean, don't just come running out of a darkened alley flashing a giant knife to tell me you'd kill for my stilettos, but I'd say most people can tell the difference between creepy stalker and genuine Jack. And if they can't, they need more practice!

So please, Senor Scott, keep up the random acts!

Response by: Queerless    Jul 24, 08:51:18 pm      offoffoffoffoff Login to vote!

I love the compliment idea from DorisDay but as a Jill I also have my guard up against creepy stalkers. I hate to seem stereotypical but would saying it in a certain way help? Would "Giiiiiirl, you're looking good today!" help us Jills relax and not think it was a pick-up line?

Response by: The Gaytriarch    Jun 24, 08:35:18 pm      offoffoffoffoff Login to vote!

Thanks DorisDay (of course you would know the proper thing to do)! I shall begin immediately letting unsuspecting Jills know when they get it "right." I have to say though, not always successful. I was in a BodyPump class at the gym and I noticed the woman who came in late and placed herself in front of me was being really good about not getting between me and my mirror time (only to make sure I was doing the exercises correctly - yeah, right). Anyway, at the end of the class I approached her to thank her for her kindness and being aware of her space/my space and she sort of jumped back as if I was going to attack her. Then she mumbled something about hating when people got in her space. So, not sure if she took it as a compliment or there are larger issues for her but I shall continue to thank, tell them they look pretty and oh yes, will definitely compliment the shoes, Doris! Thanks!


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